Back in Dublin and it feels so good. I might have hated this city a little when I first got here but I think that was basically because I was new and a little terrified and didn’t really give it a chance. Back in it, I feel comfortable and missed it and I really do love it.
I went to see Caitlin Moran last night as part of the Dublin Writer’s Festival. It’s not very often that I would pay just to listen to someone speak but she’s definitely one of the strongest voices of this generation especially for women. She’s hilarious, irreverent, and witty and she uses those skills to get across a message of feminism that has gotten lost in the last couple of decades.
It was so refreshing to hear someone say the things that you always thought and to say them so fearlessly, all the while making everyone laugh. When the abortion debate was brought up (which, if you know anything about me at all, you will know is a serous bone of contention for me that it is still a debate at all), she spoke so eloquently. In the last couple of months the debate has reached new heights in Ireland when a woman needed a termination for medical reasons and, given that abortion is still illegal here, died when she was not allowed to have it. I’m paraphrasing here but what was basically said by Caitlin Moran last night was this: It’s basically an argument between someone’s feelings about something and what someone knows is right for them. When you continue to make abortion illegal, you’re basically saying that making sure you don’t upset someone is far more important than not ruining someone’s life and that no one has the right to tell you how to live. Furthermore, it is completely cruel, mean-hearted, and unjust for someone to tell women that they must, for their entire lives now, bear the responsibility of one single mistake, wanted or otherwise.
And I really don’t think it gets any more simple than that.
I was just in awe of her and so inspired. It was refreshing to listen to a woman talk about how in the end it comes down to the fact that if we as women stopped judging each other or having an opinion on ridiculous things that People Magazine wants us to have an opinion on or just plain stopped putting in so much effort in to how we look in fear that others will judge us, the world will still turn. And it will probably turn better.
Oh, and Caitlin Moran’s advice on what to do if someone ever tells you that your vagina is gross or deems it necessary to tell you how you should be maintaining it?
Sit on their face until they just can’t be bothered to care anymore.